On the road, while Bright was enjoying his peaceful second sleep in the backseat, my mind wandered. "What if this pain is something more?" I asked myself. I kept looking in the backseat and started thinking about Brighton not having his Daddy for those milestones in his life. My Mama had cancer and I was trying to think what exactly I could be feeling under my arm.
I got to Mama's and talked to her about and she reassured me and said the same thing Karen did. So, both important women in my life had agreed and I was OK...until I got to school. My mind started wandering again. Every time my arm moved, it not only brought pain but it triggered my mind to go into "gloom and doom" mode.
I watched the clock until I could leave and I went straight to the doctor. The doc asked me questions and then felt under my arm. "That does not feel like a lymph node," the doctor said. "It doesn't," I reluctantly answered. She then went on to give me some Latin medical terminology for my ailment.
It was an ingrown hair.
Why do I tell you this story? Because five years ago, I would have just shook it off and went to work. Being a Daddy has made my existence a bit more important. My presence is needed on this earth. Karen and I have discussed what we are to do if something were to happen to one of us. As important as being a husband and wife is, we both know at this point in the game, our role as Mama and Daddy are a bit more important.
This week, we Daddys are challenged to affirm our kids. A few of the tasks are: hug your kids, say "I love you", say "thank you", and complement your kids. Do you really grasp the importance of your role in your child's life?
I read my Bible every night before I go to bed. One of my resolutions this year was to read the entire Bible through from cover to cover. Being a Christian since 1987, I should have already done this. The important thing is I am doing it now. One of the books I am reading right now is 2 Chronicles. It is a book that tells of how Israel and Judah turned away from God. Every once and a while we have a king that repents, asks for God's guidance, and gets Israel on the right track. They are considered good kings. However, Israel always falls back to the bad ways because the current king leads them that way.
Is this a leadership problem? Is this an example of someone not knowing what they are doing? In my opinion (my wife brought this to my attention), it is a Daddy problem. Those kings are all succeeded by their children who start doing bad things. If these fathers would just have taken the time to guide their sons in the right direction, Israel's and Judah's problems could have been avoided.
I know some of you might have never cracked open the Bible. The analogy can apply to your life either way. As Daddys, our opinions, our leadership, our guidance, and most of all, our example helps mold our kids into what they will become later in their lives. Most of your strong leaders today, attribute their success to their parents.
We were walking through Wal-Mart today and I said excuse me to someone I was trying to get by in an aisle. Brighton looked up at me and asked why do I always say excuse me? I told him because it is what we are supposed to do when we need to get by someone. Brighton is learning about manners. How many times do we see rude people in public and automatically start thinking about their "raising"?
With these Gold Medal Games, I have learned so much. I have learned that honestly, I am a good Daddy and I know that because Brighton has told me. He crawls up next to me and props his arm on my leg and leans into me and watches TV. Sometimes, in those magical moments, he looks up out of the blue and says, "I love you, Daddy." I look at him and say, "I love you, too Buddy." His reply, "yes." It happens like that every time.
Stay tuned later this week for a special treat. As my son has turned the big 4, I feel he is ready for his first interview. We will hear from Brighton next week and the view from a four-year-old's eyes. Please, please, please send me in your questions for him at firstname.lastname@example.org. I would love to have a few. Let's shoot for the interview to air on Monday evening.
Here is a preview.
Q--What is your favorite television show?
A--"Because I do"
This is going to be fun!!
Be the Father God wants you to be and the Daddy your children need you to be.
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